Keith Everett
how to make friends

How To Make Friends, Overcome Loneliness And Love Yourself

There are so many reasons why a person can feel lonely. Maybe it’s an introvert issue, bad physical location, a feeling of “not being able to fit in”, low self-esteem, lack of friends, etc. etc.

You could peel off a list of dozens of reasons why people feel alone. It’s never the end though, loneliness is not a disease, it’s simply something many people go through in their lifetime and it is something you can overcome.

People can be lonely in a marriage, a partnership, even amongst friends. Sometimes we just feel fed up and unconnected from the world and the people around us, our natural thoughts lead us to believe that if we can “escape”, maybe go somewhere else then everything will be OK.

The truth is, you can’t run away from loneliness, but you can make a better friend of yourself.

The Pub Story

I remember having drinks in a pub with a girlfriend and a young couple came in and sat down nearby. There were a couple of books on the bookshelf nearby and as I looked across at the couple you could see they had nothing to talk about.

They looked at each other, sipped their drinks, and then lost eye contact.

He reached up for a book on the bookshelf, his partner looked at him with a sad look in her eyes, he started reading the book, she reached up for the other book. They both sat there in the pub reading. Not uttering a single word to each other.

After a few minutes, they both put their books down, got up and left. I don’t think a single word was uttered between them..

This was quite sad to see.

You don’t have to be on your own, to be alone.

Loneliness starts with the relationship we have with ourselves. Many people spend their entire life beating themselves up over the most trivial things. The truth is, loving yourself is the first step to loving others.

How To Overcome Loneliness

Step 1. Acknowledge your situation but don’t label yourself as a loner. What you concentrate on most of the time you will often bring about. You can make friends anywhere, you don’t have to join a friendship club but if you feel up to it, you might want to give it a go.

Step 2. Be more positive in your outlook. People like people who are like them. If you have a face like thunder and a “woe is me” attitude, you’ll repel more people than you attract and if you do attract people this way, it will be people who love a good old moan.

Step 3. Even if you are the most introverted person on the planet, you can still go to events where positive people hang out. There isn’t a lot of social activity in your living room. Some people work all day and hang out at home every evening watching TV.

This isolated way of living won’t get you out of your situation. Spend an evening or two down the pub, people seem to be more chatty in a pub, it’s probably the alcohol.

Step 4. Listen to positive material, turn the nightly news off, listen to positive podcasts, read personal development books, they will lift your spirits. If you’ve made negativity and blame your default mode for years, you need to replace it with a more positive way of thinking.

Step 5. Learn to like yourself more. Let go of the past and start to look forward to the future, if you think you have nothing to look forward to, create it. It will take some work but it’s better than spending your life in isolation.

You’re Never Alone.

And last but not least. Speak to someone. Don’t bottle it all up. Don’t think you are the only one who feels like this, there are millions of people all over the world who think no one cares about them. This isn’t true, don’t spend your life lying to yourself, you would be surprised how many people there are out there who would like to be your friend if you would just talk to them.

There are approximately 8 Billion people in the World (2021), someone would want to be your friend, you just have to get out there and find them..

Have a great day. Keep positive. Onwards and Upwards..


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