Keith Everett
how to make friends

How To Make Friends Easily

Are you a bit introverted when it comes to making friends?. Maybe you find making small talk a bit awkward. This is quite common. Not everyone is outgoing. This post will give you the lowdown on how to make friends easily.

You’ve probably heard the saying ” To make a friend, you first have to be a good friend”, this is very true. If you are currently lacking in friends, ask yourself why?

Is it because you appear aloof, maybe you are constantly finding fault in other people. Perhaps you give off an air of “arrogance”. Whatever it is, we need to take a good hard look at ourselves first. If you are repelling people, ask yourself why?

The Most Common Reasons For Having A Lack Of Friends

Maybe you lack Social Skills

Perhaps you have no time to socialize

Maybe you wait for others to make the first move

Perhaps you are introverted

Maybe you’ve recently moved to a new area

Whatever the reason, it’s not something you have to put up with forever. You can do something about it right now, and NO, I’m not talking about general advice like “go out more”, join a club, etc, etc.

How To Make More Friends

Step 1. Realize that no settings are off-limits to making friends. You don’t have to be in any specific place to make friends. People are everywhere. You can make a new friend just by walking to the local shops, going to the library, or even walking the dog in the park.

Step 2. Look for a common theme. People like people who are like them or people that they aspire to be like. Yes, although opposites attract, it’s a lot easier to make friends with people that have something in common. For instance, do you have kids at the same school?, do you have a dog?, are you both interested in sport? etc. etc..

Step 3. Make it about them. don’t bore people by just talking about you. Sure it’s good to let people know a little bit about you, but don’t ruin the conversation by being self-indulgent. Ask questions that don’t require one-word answers, ask questions that show you are interested in the other person.

Step 4. Remember the Pareto Principle. This is the 80/20 rule that greatly impacts ALL of us. Learn more about this here. You will find that for every 5 friends you have, probably one will be a real active friend (20%) 20% of your friends will give you 80% of your social life. This applies to many things in life, but to be blunt. Don’t just have 1 friend. Make as many as you can. Several of your friends will not call you, they will not phone you and they may ghost you for long periods of time.

Have a backup plan. Make as many friends as possible as many will fall by the wayside as time goes on. Always be looking to make new friends.

Why do some friends not bother calling you?

This is quite normal. Not strange. It’s just how people are. In order to have an active social life, you should not rely on just one or two people. Things happen, friendships break down, you will probably go through many friends over the course of your lifetime. Some will remain.

And last, but by no means least.

Why Are Friends Important?

No one is an island. Even when we say we don’t need people. We do. We need company, it’s as simple as that. Having good positive friends aids our mental health. Without friends, life can be extremely lonely. Loneliness can lead to all kinds of health problems.

Friends help us to enjoy life. Doing things with friends is much better than going it alone. Who really likes to eat in a restaurant full of couples or groups of people, completely alone?.

Friends help you get through tough challenges, and can be good for advice, support or even just a shoulder to cry on. Good friends tend to have your interests at heart and really care for you.

If you love being around other people and making new friends is important to you, especially if you feel alone during holiday periods or you have just moved to a new city, you might just like my friend Rebecca Collins’s new book “How To Make Friends Easily”

Give it a go, and make some new friends.

I hope this post gave you a few ideas. If you got value from this post, please share it and leave a comment below.



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To make friends easily, take a look at Rebecca Collins’s New Book