You might remember that famous line from the 1996 Jerry Maguire film where “you complete me” is first said by a girl to a hearing impaired man via sign language and later on in the film said by Tom Cruise’s character Jerry to Renee Zellweger (Dorothy).
This “you complete me” line indicates that you are only complete once you have someone else to close that circle and complete you. Although this sounds a nice romantic idea, and bodes well in a film, it does smack of being somewhat idealistic. The truth is, we are complete with or without others, we always were and we always will be.
Sure, finding a soulmate to spend your life with is the cherry on the cake but it won’t complete you, you are not a half-circle waiting for the other half, you are complete just as you are.
Understanding Your Self-Worth:
- Your Inherent Value: Your worth is not determined by your accomplishments, your appearance, or the opinions of others. You were born with inherent value, and that value is not contingent on external factors.
- Embracing Imperfection: Perfection is an unattainable ideal. Embrace your imperfections, as they make you unique and human. It’s through our flaws that we connect with others on a deeper level.
- The Power of Self-Love: Self-love is the foundation of self-worth. By practicing self-compassion and self-acceptance, you can build a strong sense of self-worth that comes from within.
- Setting Intrinsic Goals: Instead of seeking external validation through achievements, set goals that align with your passions and values. This internal motivation will bring more fulfillment than chasing external markers of success.
Overcoming External Influences:
- Media and Comparison: The media often portrays unrealistic standards and fuels comparison. Limit exposure to media that makes you feel inadequate and remember that comparison is the thief of joy.
- External Validation: Relying on external validation can lead to a never-ending quest for approval. Seek validation from within, and you’ll find lasting contentment.
- Positive Affirmations: Use positive affirmations to reinforce your self-worth daily. Remind yourself of your strengths, capabilities, and the love you deserve.
- Self-Care: Prioritize self-care practices that nourish your mind, body, and soul. When you prioritize your well-being, you reinforce your sense of self-worth.
- Healthy Boundaries: Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships ensures that you are valued for who you are, not by what you can do for others.
- Surrounding Yourself with Support: Cultivate relationships with people who appreciate you for your authentic self. These relationships reinforce your self-worth.
Happiness has many disguises, we can have short, fleeting happiness from many things outside of ourselves but they are really only a sticking plaster. True happiness comes from knowing that we already are. Once we give ourselves permission to be happy, we can let go, relax and just enjoy life – yes, even with all the ups and downs. It’s not a state of buying, it’s a state of being..
You can be, have and do, absolutely anything in this life, but recognise one thing: You will always be enough, more than enough.
P.S Self love and confidence is free to all, however sometimes, we just need a nudge in the right direction, this is a beautiful book, written by a beautiful soul – Love Yourself Deeply by Rebecca Collins