Regrets And Guilt – How I Tore Them Up And Started Again

Regrets, I’ve had a few, but then again too few to mention. So sung ole Blue Eyes.

Maybe at this point I should tell you that in the past I have felt very guilty about things and I have had major regrets but in this post I’m going to spill the beans on how I snapped out of it, got rid of those guilt feelings and trashed any regrets I was carrying around in my head.

First of all, it’s very rare to find people who have never felt guilty about anything or have never had regrets. If you’ve been around a while, the chance of having a regret free and guilt free life are slim to none.

Not everyone will admit that they harbour regrets or that they feel guilty, this is because although they wouldn’t consider themselves liars, human beings are often economical with the truth. In fact, many times people often fool themselves with false realities. “What’s that you say?, false realities?”

Regrets And Guilt – How We Kid Ourselves

Regretting things is not only a highly useless way of living but it is also very destructive. Regret commonly leads to guilt and guilt is like a cancer, it grows inside us until we see all it’s festering damage spewing forth into our life.

Guilt is self defeating, it’s an emotion where you cast yourself as a victim of your own judgement. It is self defeating and traps you in an inescapable loop that’s anchored in a fictional past. Hence, there is no escape (or is there?)

The past is nothing more than a present time memory of our perception of a previous event. In other words, it is our version of what happened, repeated over and over again to torture us forever.

Regrets and guilt serve no purpose whatsoever. They are in our minds with one purpose only. To play over and over again to live in endless punishment designed to stop us moving on and to spend our lives wishing and wondering “what might have been”

Can you now see how destructive these two emotions are?

Regrets And Guilt the Only Way Out

Whatever happened in your past, can not now be changed now or in the future. The past has already gone. The decent thing to do is to move on. If you don’t move on you will be locked to your past guilt and regrets like a prisoner. Even a prisoner gets parole at some stage (usually).

The choice is clear. Give yourself permission to cut free from feelings of guilt or having any regrets. This is not being disrespectful to whatever happened in the past, it is merely letting go so you can do better in the future.

I wish I could hold your hand and tell you how much time you are wasting worrying about the past but only you can move on and move on you must. Let it go, the past is the past, you can’t live there anymore.

You’ve already suffered from the event itself, you can’t keep going around and around forever suffering until you die. Let go now.

The past is a useful place of reference, we can all learn from our mistakes, but the past is gone, it’s a poor place to keep living in.

Let go. Move on and give yourself permission to live your life fully without looking back. This is what I do, every time I screw up, and everyone does, I pick myself up and move on. .

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All the best

Keith

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