The UGLY Truth About “Loser Syndrome”

Keith, you’re losing it, and when it’s lost, all you are is a loser

Mary Stuart Masterson – “Some Kind Of Wonderful”

We tend to reach very quick conclusions in our mind exactly who should be considered a “loser” and who shouldn’t. We are quick to reach for words of hatred these days and very slowly when it comes to words of praise.

Who Is The Loser?

Being called a “loser” is not very nice and often or not, says more about the person who is doing the calling than the actual recipient themselves.

Personally, I don’t see anyone as a loser, people go through many changes in life and sometimes the dice don’t always fall their way, but just being alive and surviving some of life’s challenges is in itself a winning move.

No-one deserves the “loser” label. Yes, some people do bad things, that in itself doesn’t make them bad, just like some bad people do good things, life happens to us all, be it good or bad. We all tend to go through rough patches at some time, this doesn’t make us “losers”.

The man on the street may be “stuck” for now, but he is certainly no loser (have you ever tried to survive on the street?). The woman who may be on benefits, with kids and no partner on the scene certainly isn’t a loser, in fact she could be considered a “warrior”, her life is tougher than most.

Loser Syndrome – The Ugly Truth

Many successful people today including celebrities, athletes etc would have been considered “losers” at some time. Most winners spend many months and years losing at whatever they do. It’s the nature of the beast, any large chunk of success takes a lot of losing before it becomes a reality.

We are separated, not by the name tags such as winners or losers, but more by our own selfish views of success and failure. You don’t have to be a millionaire or billionaire to be considered successful, you could just be someone who makes someone else feel special, or you could be someone who is kind to your neighbours.

Winner Or Loser – Who Decides?

Success doesn’t have a giant bell attached and pockets full of money, it can be a mother who is good to her kids, a guy who loves his partner or a person who volunteers in a charity. These are all successful people, getting by and making life work.

Unfortunately some people are stuck through no fault of their own. Not everyone is gifted with the will to win, some people are happy with the quiet things in life, some people like their lot and don’t feel a need to change, despite what society thinks.

The ugly truth is, there are too many people too quick to judge, some are hypocrites who often hide their bad choices in life by trying to “call out” others.

I’ve said it before, life is short, let’s stop labelling winners and losers and lets start being role models for others, less complaining and name calling, less hatred and shaming.

I hope you liked this post. If you did, can you do me a favour and share it or leave a comment below. Thanks in advance..

Keith

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