How To Love Yourself Like A Man

Love Yourself

As a man, we may be led to believe that “manliness” is the art of looking tough, always looking like you are in control and of course, never crying. This couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Just like all the old “stereotypes” of the past, the times are changing. Nowadays, a man can show feelings, he can (at last) feel human, without the need to be a macho role model who goes around acting all tough and beating people up.

We are entering a new era, an era where “manliness” is actually caring, it’s “looking after others”, it’s showing leadership but most all it’s liberating ones self. Feeling vulnerable can at last, be our strength.

Big Boys Do Cry

Yes they do, and it’s not just reserved for weddings and funerals either, men have feelings too and instead of holding it in, the modern man is letting it out. I’m not saying you have to become a blubbering fool, but if you suppress your feelings too much and for too long, it will eventually rear it’s ugly head in the form of either a mental breakdown or depression.

The NEW man can be anything he wants. We all have a right to take up space on this planet, we all have a right to feel good, we feel good by being who we are – it’s great to love others, but we must also love ourselves first.

You’ve seen the Air safety drill when you go on a plane. When the oxygen masks come down, you save yourself first. You are then in a much better position to save others. It’s the same with self-love.

Love yourself first. This enables you to love others with everything you’ve got.

How do you love yourself?.

The first step is to get rid of that taped message in your head telling you that you aren’t good enough. You can’t have a negative thought and a positive thought in your head at the same time, you just need to start clearing out the negativity and start replacing with positivity. Give it spring-clean. What you keep repeating to yourself over and over becomes true. So make sure it’s good. Kick out the bad and replace it with new, more positive forward thinking.

The best way to start loving yourself again is to live with purpose. We are all on this planet for such a short time. You may think your purpose is to find happiness, this is true, but it’s not the end goal. (many people struggle with this), Really, what makes us happy is to find our TRUE purpose, this then tends to lead to lasting happiness.

What makes you happy?

Whatever it is, do more of it. I know it’s hard working your butt off every day 40-50 hours a week, maybe when you get home you don’t want to do much apart from veg out in front of the TV, BUT, your true purpose will keep you going when times are tough, that’s why it’s so important to have one…

And, I’m not talking about your job. Unless of course, your job is your true purpose.

Self- Love The Beginning

Stop comparing yourself to others. OK, I guess we all do it at times. We see so many “perfect” images on Instagram, Facebook and Tik-Tok, it’s so easy to start thinking that this is true life. This is not so. It’s much easier to look perfect on Social Media and show yourself in a good light than it is to live it in real life. . The truth is, all of those people have flaws too. No one is perfect.

Embrace your flaws

When you compare yourself to others, it’s often not done on a like-for-like basis. Successful people often take years to get to where they are today. Perfect looking people on social media are often using filters and high levels of #BS. Be happy with who you are, you’re the only you that you have.

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