KeithI’ve never been to jail, but my school days were reminiscent of what it must be like to join a teen jail and then be allowed home for evenings and weekends.
School, for me was a time of dread, either you were cool, or you weren’t (I wasn’t). Or you were blessed genetically (I wasn’t)… It was kind of a big club that you turned up to each day to learn stuff and try to be a good little soldier..
It didn’t come without it’s upsets, trauma and hostilities, and that’s just the teachers – some of the kids were even worse…but we all tried to get along.
This post is not about me (of course), but the millions of teens the world over spending their teenage life fighting for self-esteem, self-love, wanting to be heard, zits, bullies, parents, teachers, teenage angst, and social anxiety to name but a few.
“The best years of your life are your schooldays”. I don’t know who first said this but it’s not like this for everyone. In fact, is it like this for anyone?. Maybe there are a few A+ students who glide through exams and social problems like riding a hoverboard but for most, it’s probably a mixture of fun and torture with some learning thrown in for good measure.
Help I’m a Teenager – Avoid These Black Holes
There are so many avenues these days to point out how a person should look and feel, it’s ultra confusing and leaves people bewildered as to why they don’t match up to what is required by society, parents, teachers, etc.
My point is, when a person reaches their teens, they are between being both a child and an adult. Can you imagine how confusing that is to the teenager? They have friends to turn to, hopefully, but friends are equally confused.
This kind of leaves it to counselors, teachers, and parents to dish the advice. This all comes at a time when authority is not the teen’s favorite flavor of the month. Many teenagers are dazed and confused. Worried for their future, worried if they will fit in, worried about their body shape, their looks, those enormous zits, and all the other body changes that creep upon them.
Here are just some of the common issues teenagers suffer from today:
- Anxiety/Stress
- Depression
- Bullying (at school or online)
- Sexual Identity
- Peer Pressure
- Alcohol or Drug consumption
- Body Image Issues
- Academic problems
- Parental Pressure
- Trust Issues
- Lack of motivation
- Dealing with failure
- Low self-esteem
- Low energy levels
So, what is the answer?.
For more information on helping teens with the above issues, click here for Rebecca Collins’s latest book “Help! I’m A Teenager“
For the parents, it’s trying to understand that your teen is bombarded with issues all day long, making them clean their room is a good idea but not right after they’ve just been dumped by miss 5C or bullied for looking like a weirdo. There is a time and place for everything.
For teens, it’s about realizing the temporary status of teenage life and although many are in a hurry to end the torture and get out to work, remember that you have 40, or 50 years of that sh*t. Enjoy your teens and make the most of it, don’t body shame and bully people, start where you intend to go on.
There is a shortage of good leaders in this world. Both teens and adults need more positive role models, why not be one? Think of yourself as a work in progress, maybe you look funny at the moment but that’s just nature playing tricks on you. As you grow, so will your levels of understanding about yourself grow.
Help I’m A Teenager – The Final Words
Stop trying to be perfect. No one is. Everyone has flaws and faults, it’s just that some people are very good at hiding theirs. Your time as a teen will pass, it’s temporary and necessary. You can’t go from a kid to an adult in one leap, even Superman couldn’t do that.
You get better by helping others, if your own self-esteem is low, talk to an adult, preferably your parents or a school counselor about it. If you don’t get help there, there are plenty of good books out there to help you, including this one.
This blog post is not intended to be the be-all and end-all of advice, seek qualified help if you are having problems dealing with issues. There is always someone out there to help you get through it, don’t be afraid to ask.
Celebrate yourself, you’re a wonderful human being.
Have a great day
Keith
P.S For more information on Rebecca Collins’s latest book “Help I’m A Teenager“, click this link or the image below.
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