7 Dumbass Life-Changing Mistakes Many People Never Learn From

I do it and you probably do to. What?, I hear you say?

Not learning from mistakes…

It’s actually quite common… But Why?, why do we make the same mistakes over and over again, but never learn from them? According to the University of Chicago’s center of decision research, “willful blindness is an act of self-preservation. Often, people find failure to be ego-threatening, and they simply tune out,” she says. “As a result, they stop learning.”

There you go. It’s that old thing Ego again, getting in the way.

How can we stop making the same mistakes over and over again?

1). Lose the need to always be right.

2) Listen to your “gut feeling” – it’s there for a reason.

3) Realise that doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result is.. well, just plain STOOPID…

Here are seven of the most common DUMBASS mistakes we (the people) make over and over again.

1. WACKO Money Making Schemes and Scams. If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. The latest crackpot scheme can be like showing a red rag to a bull to some people. The crazier it sounds, the better. There are people out there floating around the south of france on yachts laughing their cahoonas off at just how many people fall for their crazy mad money making schemes. Wise up.. it’s better to be a wiseass than a dumbass..

I get it. Some people are desperate and they look to these mad schemes to make money, however, most of the time it’s a quick way to lose it. There is always a new FAD out there, especially on the Internet and many people are always ready to exploit the vulnerable.

There are several ways to make money, a job, inherit it, marry it, win it, steal it or make it… in my view, starting a legitimate business is the best way.

Why?. All of the others, yes, including getting and keeping a job come with a lot of inherent risk, running a business (properly) can be less risky in the long run once you get over the initial high-risk stages at the beginning.

Life-Changing Mistakes – Who Wants To be Changed?

I’m going to be very brutal here and I apologize here in advance, but most people don’t really want to change. What a person says in public and what they are thinking in private can be two very different things. Sometimes staying the same can get them the attention they crave and by changing, they MIGHT not be seen as a victim anymore, therefore they may no longer get the attention.

2. Thinking you can change people who don’t want to be changed. This is very common, I’ve tried and failed at this many times. You can’t want something for people if they don’t want it themselves.

The famous quote from Tony Robbings/Jim Rohn is pretty spot-on “For things to change, you have to change, for things to get better, you have to make them better”. It’s not up to someone else to change us. As human beings, we come with the responsibility of being able to change ourselves.

3. Expecting too much from other people. This causes a huge amount of stress in people. Forcing our pictures of the world onto others is not a good thing. The way we think and do things is just us being us. It doesn’t make us right. Everyone has their own unique stardust. It’s wrong to force our opinions onto others, it is like trying to steal some of their uniqueness because we feel we know better than them.

Until we are perfect (ain’t going to happen), we should respect everyone, their opinions and their other sh*t we don’t like..

Life-Changing Mistakes Many People Never Learn From

4. Thinking that the majority are the ones who are always right. Never has this hit home more than in the recent pandemic. There has been so much unrest and tension between people over who should and shouldn’t wear masks, or get vaccinated. What tends to happen is the majority try to overrule the minority, thinking that large numbers will eventually control the small numbers and always win.

This is typical dumb thinking.

If the majority were always right, we would all be happy citizens, enjoying our daily commute to work, living in happy homes, rich in pocket and mind, and looking forward to our senior days in retirement.

Instead. The majority are sick, sick and tired, stressed, addicted to screens, addicted to the media and worried. This is what happens when you play the majority card. Instead of trying to “fit in”. Try “standing out”.

Recently, more and more people have taken to “working from home”. This relieves a lot of stress, helps the environment by taking lots of cars off the road in the rush hour and allows people to see more of their families.

Create your own economy. Stuff the majority, the government, the politicians, the media, the jobs for life brigade. Stand out, don’t fit in.

5. Allowing other people to dictate your life. This happens to a lot of people. It’s quite common in a romantic partnership and often common with family members. The problem lies when your way of thinking is different from either your partner or from other family members.

When you are born, you get a birth certificate, a name, and a place in this world. People will help you along in your journey and that’s a good thing. However, people will also try to manipulate you, knowingly or unknowingly.

Everyone is an individual and no one has the right to change that. Although we learn through others, others should not try to force their opinions on us. However, people do this all the time. Although I love my family, I am not them and they are not me. No one can feel the same way about you as you do.

In order to stay sane, in order to keep being you, you have to call the shots and not be manipulated by others. Don’t let other people make you feel bad, you are great the way you are, don’t let others change that.

It’s Not Easy.

6. Thinking things are easier than they really are. Many people go through life thinking “If I just keep my head down and play by the rules, everything will be OK”. This is not necessarily true.

The universe will constantly throw curveballs at you if it thinks you are getting too complacent. When things are going well for you, expect the unexpected. For every three good or great things that you experience in life, three opposite experiences are there somewhere out there in the either waiting to bounce off your head.

Life is hard, even if you’re rich. Yes, it can be made a little better but generally, you will get up and down experiences throughout, and not necessarily in a logical sequence.

Nothing worth having is easy. When you find your lifelong partner, they may not have been the first person you ever dated. You would have had to work at it until you found the right one.

If you want to be successful in business, prepare to fail. It’s all part of the process. some people take years before they finally make it in business or anything. People who treat things with a very lethargic approach very rarely succeed at anything. It takes work. And lots of it.

And Finally

7. Last, but by no means least!. The biggest mistake of all.. FEARING that you’ll make one.

People who never make a mistake, don’t make much. This constant fear of making mistakes is crazy. I recently made a huge clanger that cost me $250,000 [READ ABOUT IT HERE], but I lived to tell the tale. Mistakes are what shapes us, they are the key to our future, they are not something you should never make.

If you are a dynamic go-getting type of individual, the chances are, you will make a huge amount of mistakes in your life. If you fear making them, you wouldn’t achieve as much. What most people don’t understand is the importance of learning from mistakes, and this is what this post is all about.

If you’re not making mistakes regularly, the chances are you’re not doing a great deal. Making mistakes is “human” but making the same ones over and over is just DUMB..

I hope you got some value from this post. If you did, please leave a comment below, and share the post.

Thanks

Keith

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PPS Learn the CRAZY story of how I lost $250,000 in a single day and recovered from it in a very short space of time..

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