The Art Of Forgiveness

You won’t hear me quoting the bible very often, but this is what it says about forgiveness.

Matthew 6:15; “But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”

Basically, forgive others so you shall be forgiven.

Let’s be honest, just making it through the day can be hard for many people. We all have bills, thoughts about the future, thoughts about the past, and many other balls that we attempt to juggle every single day in this ever-changing world.

Do we need the extra stress of holding a grudge and not forgiving people?

Our lives were never meant to be simple, and relationships are often strained and complex, If everything were easy, we would learn very little, but we certainly don’t need many of the hassles that come with “certain” relationships. Humans are often unpredictable and complex.

Remember this though: We are all vulnerable, we all make mistakes and very often say and do things that we shouldn’t have. A bad decision does not make us a bad person.

Forgive And Forget?

The longer we hold a grudge, the longer we suffer. Sure, there are some things that are so horrendous that “forgiving” is out of the question for many people, BUT, when you forgive, you are “not letting that person off the hook”, you are actually letting yourself “off the hook”

It takes work to hold a grudge.

It takes work to avoid people

It takes work to hate people.

All of this is added stress

Do you need that?

Here’s my two cents worth. When you forgive someone, you yourself are actually the one who is being released. You are the one who is letting go. Now, I don’t know about you but “letting go” can be a nice feeling. It’s an “escape” from the stress of holding a grudge. It’s a signal to “move on”, when you unchain yourself from a problem, you are freeing yourself up.

Life is short. We are really all just a speck on the radar in the grand scheme of things. we can spend our lives chasing down everyone and everything that harms us or we can go out and learn from these mistakes and live our lives..

Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting, it just means moving on. Time will pass anyway, it can either pass with you living your life having hate in your heart or you living your life loving every minute. None of us are perfect.

And one last thing: Should we forgive everyone?. This is up to you of course. There are a few really bad apples in the barrel and maybe you think these people are beyond forgiveness. I’m not the judge and jury here but when someone does something terrible to you or maybe someone you love, you suffer twice.

You suffer once at the time of the crime/incident

You suffer for ALL TIME when you keep reliving the moment.

I don’t know about you but once is enough for me.

I hope you got some value from this post. If you did, please do leave a comment below and share the post, that would be awesome.

Have a great day.

Keith

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